What is judgement?
Judgement here, refers to making conclusions about someone by observing the apparent by using your own understanding of things. For example, you see someone wearing a hijab and you assume that they are very pious and knowledgeable about religion or you see someone wearing a western dress and assume that they don’t pray or fast.
It is not your place to be passing judgements on people. You might see one thing but, the situation might be a total opposite because appearance isn’t everything. But we as human beings, focus on what we can see and comprehend. It is time for us to realise that world is not black and white and it is not our job or place to make decisions whether someone is on the right path or not and who is going to heaven or hell.
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Maybe They are Better than you
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَومٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَى أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاء مِّن نِّسَاء عَسَى أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ بِئْسَ الاِسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُوْلَئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ
O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.Hujrat 49:11
There are many beautiful teachings in this verse. The main point that I want to focus on, for the sake of this article is we shouldn’t ridicule other people. (whatever the reason might be) In actuality, they might be better than us, because only Allah knows the true and real self of the person and their situation.
Also, not ridiculing others and not judging others doesn’t mean that we can never see the other person’s behaviour for what it is and then act accordingly. Yes, we can at times that someone is being toxic, and we need to distance ourselves from them. But, at times, we can be judgemental and declare someone toxic because of our own judgement and biases. The second type of behaviour is what is not allowed in Islam.
Don’t Look Down on People
Abdullah ibn Mas’ud reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise.” Someone said, “But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes.” The Prophet said, “Verily, Allah is beautiful and he loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on people.”Sahih Muslim 91
This hadith shows us that using one’s wealth for dressing up and everything isn’t wrong at all. This doesn’t mean, one is trying to show off or want to be better than others. It depends on one’s heart. Arrogance is looking down on others. Looking down why? It can be any reason. Maybe because of their financial status, because of their religiosity or lack thereof, because of their lack of formal schooling, because of their family background.
If we just realise that by judging others on the materialistic and apparent and responding to them with arrogance and ridicule, how much negativity we are spreading into this world, we will never do that. If we realise the hurt that we cause on the other end, to a human being who has emotions like us, we will be cautious of what we think and say.
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Don’t Follow Satan
It was Satan who thought of himself to be better than Adam peace be upon him because he was created from fire while Adam pbuh was created from clay. But what really happened? Satan disobeyed Allah and became from those from whom Allah is angry. Not only this, he made it a mission to lead others astray too. Who turned out better in the end? It was Adam pbuh who repented and came back to Allah.
If we end up considering ourselves better than someone else, this means we are following the path of Satan. Stay humble! Stay kind! And don’t judge!